Holli Henderson, single mum to Austin, 6, breaks down the first date tips you need to know.
“Before I became a mum… I didn’t really have an ideal man, I’m quite a free spirit so I didn’t really think much about who I wanted in my life. I guess I always went for men that needed fixing, or some sort of help – the broken ones.
Since becoming a mum I wouldn’t consider dating anyone who needed fixing or who’s not got it together. I don’t need someone else to look after. All my time and effort go into my son and my business. Plus I want a positive male role model in my life for Austin.
I’ve heard so many horror stories about online dating that it completely freaks me out! I feel like a lot of people on there are looking for quick hook ups and that’s not what I need or want. I’m old school I like to meet people through people you already know and then you know if you have a connection with them.
My idea of a perfect date would be dinner and cocktails somewhere by the sea and the beach.
The best thing about being single is I get the king sized bed all to myself!
Having a child makes dating hard because I’m only available to date 4 nights a month. It does make you find better suited partners though because you are trusting that other person to be a part of your child’s life eventually so you pick wisely.
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Before I had Austin my time to get ready would be about two hours! Now I can do full make up in 5 minutes, usually with my son asking me to give him a maths problem to solve or him telling me the names of every wrestler in the WWE. He always tells me I look beautiful before I go out which makes my heart ache
I would say to any single mum nervous about dating to start off going for coffee in the day! You can escape if you don’t like them and if you do then your second date can be dinner. Find someone who you have a real connection with! If you aren’t nervous you don’t like them that much! If you are happy your child will be happy and we all need love in our lives and you deserve to be loved!
I’m at my happiest when me and my little love are together spending quality time. I also love being around my family.
Love for me means finding someone who has your back 100%, someone who is loyal. It’s someone who tells you that you look beautiful first thing in the morning and that will love your child even though he’s not their biological dad. It’s someone to create your own little bubble with.”
Holli Henderson is owner of Essential Beauty Co in Brentwood, you can follow her on IG Holli Henderson