Guest mum: Heena is a mum of one and was raised by her mum. We talk strong women, happy homes and the biggest misconception about being raised by a single mum.
“I was brought up by my mum from the age of 5. As a child my feelings about being raised in a single parent family were mixed. I didn’t quite understand why I was the only one who didn’t go on holidays or days out with my mum and dad and why everyone kept asking me where my dad was. This upset me but on the other hand, I was lucky as I only had one parent who disciplined me and told me off if I had done anything wrong.
The best thing about our ‘mum plus one’ family was me and my mum became a whole unit. Our bond was very strong and to this day it still is. For example, we looked after each other if one of us was sick or had a bad day.
In hindsight I think my mum’s biggest worries as a single parent were if there was enough money to do the things I wanted to so I wouldn’t miss out on my childhood; if I was getting bullied at school because I came from a single parent family and how I was going to turn out as an adult.
My mum’s had a big influence on my life. My mum is my everything, even now at 36. She is the person I talk to every day and the person who is there for me unconditionally. She is the reason I started up my business so I can provide for her in her golden years.
Growing up in a single parent family taught me to appreciate my mum and my extended family. I also understood what hardship was as my mum worked two jobs to support us and came to realise we should value the life we have been given.
The idea for my brand Mini Me Collections was born soon after the birth of my daughter. I decided very early on that I didn’t want to go back to work in the NHS once my maternity leave had finished. So I thought what can I do that I enjoy doing and is something that I think parents would like? The answer was textiles, I had loved studying this when I was younger and I had struggled to find stylish, comfortable outfits for my daughter in pure cotton. So I started on this journey to create special occasion outfits for children from pure cotton fabrics. Then I thought hang on I like this fabric for myself, why don’t I make matching outfits for mums? This is how Mini Me Collections was born.
The biggest misconception about children that are raised by single parents is that they follow the wrong path, turn to drink and drugs and are unsuccessful in life. I know many children who have used this life experience to an advantage and become adults who are successful contributors in society.
To all ‘mum plus ones’ who feel like they aren’t coping or worry they aren’t doing a good enough job I would say look at your beautiful child/children. You are their world and everything you are doing, you are doing it for them. It may not be easy for you right now, but I promise it will get easier.
Single mums are incredible because they are superwomen- strong, brave, able to take on the world and most importantly selfless.”
Heena is the founder of Mini Me Collections, an online boutique store specialising in exclusive stylist outfits for both parents and children. Heena decided soon after the birth of her daughter to become an entrepreneur mum and start Mini Me Collections. www.minime-collections.com you can follow Mini Me Collections on Instagram